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Zoom meeting see link below

CODA Online Meeting w/ Kim

We meet online through Zoom for a very laid back CODA meeting for 60 mins.

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CODA Online Meeting w/ Kim
CODA Online Meeting w/ Kim

Time & Location

Dec 11, 2023, 6:00 PM – 7:00 PM EST

Zoom meeting see link below

About the event

About the Event

CODA

Dec. 11, 2023

Online Meeting on Zoom w/ Kim

6:00 PM – 7:00 PM EST

Please RSVP on this site two days before our meeting by 12/9/2023 @ 6:00 PM. Please be aware that if you do not RSVP before this time, the meeting can be cancelled.  We must have at least 2 people to RSVP to have the meeting. Please be on time. At 6:05 p.m. the meeting will start and after that we cannot add more people due to disrupting the Zoom meeting.  People who RSVP will be admitted to the meeting only.

We meet online through Zoom for a monthly and very laid back CODA meeting for 60 mins.

CODA was created for people who need support to have a healthy relationship with themselves and with the other people that are important in their lives.   The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy & loving relationships.

Please be respectful of other people's shares and experiences. Please do not give your opinions or feedback when other people  share their stories.  We do NOT crosstalk. If a member asks for feedback or advice, you may trade information and communicate outside of the meeting.

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We Do Not Crosstalk

Crosstalk is interrupting, giving advice, playing amateur psychotherapist to others, or making comments about another person’s sharing. It is also talking to someone or making distracting noise during sharing time. In ACA, we don’t crosstalk. When others share with us, just listen; our reality, our truth, our ideas, our feelings, our self-image, our beings are affirmed. When we focus only on our own recovery (keeping out of other people’s), we are taking responsibility for our own lives. We do this by presenting all statements in the “I”, first-person, form.  If you crosstalk, you will have 1 warning during the meeting, afterwards you will bumped from the meeting and not allowed back in.  We want this to be a safe meeting, where everyone feels free to speak freely, no matter what they have to say.

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​MEETING PLACE: ONLINE

Join Zoom Meeting By Clicking Link Below and using Meeting ID and password:

https://zoom.us/j/7451361698?pwd=NWd4OVpPNXJLQXg1bHlFZG56eEFlZz09

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Personal Meeting ID:   745-136-1698

Password: 610282

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Welcome to the CODA Meeting Forum.

Below you will see this week's readings.

There are also support links, suggested books, and other resources to help with your recovery.

CODA Community

Reach out to our CODA community to get answers.

If you would like to discuss a topic CODA related, this is your place and these are your people.  

We ask that you are kind, compassionate, and follow the rules of allowing people to express 

their experiences safely and in a non judgmental space.

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Please have the Co-dependents Anonymous book

Click here to purchase.

(not required for first time visitors)

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Begin Our Meeting Here:

(Keep this page open so you can follow along.)

What is Codependence

Welcome to Co-Dependents Anonymous. We welcome you to Co-Dependents Anonymous, 

a program of recovery from codependence, where each of us may share our experience, 

strength, and hope in our efforts to find freedom where there has been bondage and 

peace where there has been turmoil in our relationships with others and ourselves. 

Most of us have been searching for ways to overcome the dilemmas of the conflicts 

in our relationships and our childhoods. Many of us were raised in families where addictions existed - 

some of us were not. In either case, we have found in each of our lives that codependence is 

a most deeply rooted compulsive behavior and that it is born out of our sometimes moderately, 

sometimes extremely dysfunctional families and other systems. We have each experienced 

in our own ways the painful trauma of the emptiness of our childhood and relationships throughout 

our lives. We attempted to use others - our mates, friends, and even our children, as our sole source 

of identity, value and wellbeing, and as a way of trying to restore within us the emotional losses 

from our childhoods. Our histories may include other powerful addictions which at times we have 

used to cope with our codependence. We have all learned to survive life, but in CoDA we are learning 

to live life. Through applying the Twelve Steps and principles found in CoDA to our daily life and 

relationships, both present and past, we can experience a new freedom from our self-defeating 

lifestyles. It is an individual growth process. Each of us is growing at our own pace and will 

continue to do so as we remain open to God's (or whatever you choose to call this Power) 

will for us on a daily basis. Our sharing is our way of identification and helps us to free the emotional 

bonds of our past and the compulsive control of our present. No matter how traumatic your past 

or despairing your present may seem, there is hope for a new day in the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous. 

No longer do you need to rely on others as a power greater than yourself. May you instead find here a 

new strength within to be that which God (or or whatever you choose to call this Power) intended - Precious and Free.

From: The Fellowship Service Manual of CoDependents Anonymous 

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Anonymity

Anonymity allows us to share our feelings and to experience an "Identity" apart from a "label."  "Who you see here, what you hear here, let it stay here," is a good rule to follow in creating a safe place to share our feelings and recovery without fear of gossip, retaliation, or our anonymity being broken.

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Our Readings

We Do Not Cross Talk

Patterns and Characteristics of Codependence

Recovery Patterns of Codependence

The CODA 12 Steps

The CODA 12 Traditions

The Twelve Promises of Co-Dependents Anonymous

The Fellowship Service Manual of CoDependents Anonymous

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Tradition Seven:

Every CoDA group ought to be fully self-supporting

Donate here to help with our meetings here 

Thank you!  Contributions maintain our actual group's expenses for the Zoom bi-weekly meetings and the materials we need to do our group meetings.  Any amount helps!

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Reading Material for This Week's Meeting  (read this before the meeting)

Read the Co-dependents Anonymous book 

Watch this video:

Discuss at Share Time:      

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SHARE TIME & CLOSING

MEMBERS CAN SHARE AT THIS POINT.  Please limit your shares to five minutes.  

If you do not want to talk, or are finished with your share, just say, "pass."

* END* Discuss the pages to read for our next meeting in 2 weeks in the CODA BLUE BOOK

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Feelings Wheel   ​

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​​ARTICLES TO HELP: ​

9 Ways to Self-Regulate as an Empath.

Putting you first: 5 ways to Create Healthy Boundaries

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​​LINKS:

Emotional Flashback Management in the Treatment of Complex PTSD by Pete Walker, MFT

I​ntherooms.com online recovery site

Healing Trauma - How To Start Feeling Safe In Your Own Body with Dr. Bessel van der Kolk

12 Dysfunctional Family Characteristics

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